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Mathtacular Moment

I posted this on the Sonlight forums under Sonlight Moments

I cracked open our Mathtacular II dvd today. The kids (7, 5 and 3) were busy discussing which dvd they wanted to watch as a treat after supper.

Mom: Gummy Bears?
Girls: nah
Mom: Toy Story?
Girls: no – that’s boring
Mom: Black Beauty?
Girls: naaahh…
Mom: Mathtacular?
Girls (beaming): Yeah!!!!! Let’s watch MathTACulAR!
Sam, 3: YAY! Mathtacular!

And so this evening our home was filled with the sound of Justin explaining Math concepts in his enthusiastic instructor voice…. and a little later, while the girls were packing away their clothing in their room, I heard …

Katie (in perfect “Justin enthusiastic instructor voice”): Look Kiera, I have TWO shoes. That means I have ONE plus ONE shoe. That equals TWO. TWO shoes!

Who would have known that Math dvds would be so much fun to watch AND so educational?  Thanks Justin and co!

To find out more about Mathtacular, click on the link below…

paper planes

Craig came home a bit earlier from work the other day.  What fun it was to have dad around BEFORE pyjama time.  And what fun to have him around for some school time too. 

This particular afternoon, we still had to finish off some of our science lesson which involved learning about planes and flight.  We tested our new knowledge by making our own paper airplanes – and had distance competitions with dad.  Dad’s engineering background came in handy – these planes got quite a few modifications!

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(Apologies to our neighbours for those planes that went AWOL!)

Kiera’s bedtime story

IMG_0491 One of Kiera’s assignments this week was to write a short 10-12 line bedtime story featuring a mouse.  Well, I didn’t read the instructions properly, and left out the mouse part.  Instead, she planned a story about a kitten and a dog.  Usually, writing is not her strong suit and she balks at long stories, because it means a sore hand and frustration at not being able to form her letters as neatly as she (or mom) would like.  But, for some reason, the idea of creating a bedtime story that she could read to her Build-A-Bear appealed to her and she wrote a beautiful story.  To encourage her to write a good story, I let her start it in her own handwriting and once she had written a page, I took over as scribe.  Well, this 10-12 liner turned into a much longer story!  I promised to type it up for her so that we could turn it into a Build-a-Bear sized book.  So, while I am typing it up, I thought I would pop it up here in our family journal for her to peruse when she is older.  I was really chuffed with her story-telling.  Reading books has helped her enormously with establishing a plot, moving from scene to scene and character development.  This is entirely her own story with only 3 helps from me on logistic bits.

Here it is:

A Bedtime Story

by Kiera-Lee Hayes

“Mittens!” cried Jenny as Mittens went under the covers of the neatly made bed.

Miaw!” said mittens.

Just then Jenny’s mom came in.

“Jenny,” she said sternly, ‘What is this noise about?”

“Mittens is under my covers.  I’m trying to make my bed and that’s the third time she’s got under my covers!”

“Mittens!  I told you to get out of her room just now!” said Jenny’s mom.  She kicked Mittens and Mittens ran out the room and went to find Benny, the dog.

Benny was outside in the back yard.  His person’s name was Jeremy.  Jeremy was rather cross when Benny didn’t do what he wanted him to do.  Benny was having time out in the yard.  He looked bored from waiting.  He smiled when he saw Mittens come into the yard.

“Benny!’ said Mittens, “I have a great idea! Because our owners are mean and cruel to us, why don’t we run away?”

“What a good idea, Mittens!” cried Benny, “when should we run away?”

“Maybe on Christmas morning or maybe the night before Christmas morning?”

“I think the night before,” said Benny, “we don’t ever get presents.  Our owners are so cruel to us.”

“Alright, ” said Mittens, “do you sleep in your kennel on the night before Christmas morn?”

Benny said, “I sleep in my kennel every night except Christmas night.  So we can run away on Christmas eve.”

On Christmas Eve, Mittens met Benny in his kennel.  They squeezed under the gap in the hedge and ran out into the town.  They padded on the road past the buildings.  They went out into the countryside.  They found a nice place to sleep, quite far from the town.

In the morning, Jenny woke up.  She looked around to see if Mittens was there.  There was no Mittens.  “Good,” she said.  She got up and went to breakfast.

“Jeremy!” called Jeremy’s mom, “do you want to go see where Benny is and feed him?”

“Alright, ” said Jeremy.

Jeremy went to find Benny but Benny wasn’t there.  “Mom, ” he called, “Benny’s not here!”

Benny and Mittens woke up together.  At the same time, they remembered that they must run as fast as they could, so that they wouldn’t be caught.

They found an old ladder leading up to a tree house.  They ran up it, barking and meowing at the same time.  A kind old man came out of the house.  He smiled when he saw the cat and dog.

“Ah, ” he said, “I know you two!  You look like you’ve run away from your cruel owners.  I will give you each a collar and you can be mine.  I will look after you well”

They came into his house and it looked like to him that it was still Christmas Eve for it was very late.  It ended as a very happy Christmas indeed!

And guess what?  Nobody ever found them!

Beaming words of wisdom

sonlight Sonlight, our curriculum provider, sends out a bi-weekly newsletter The Beam, including interesting forum discussions and snippets too.  This week’s newsletter touched on an issue I struggle with a LOT: blaming and complaining.  I’ve got better at it over the years, but just a day or two of home observation will prove that I still struggle with it.  Yesterday I had to bite my tongue when my eldest broke another one of my favourite and irreplaceable bowls (those beautiful purply blue, now discontinued, Jenny Book bowls you gave us for our wedding, Kel! :( )  My heart wanted to pitch a fit and yell at her for being clumsy.  And, I’m ashamed to say that I did pitch a fit the last time she broke one of those bowls.  Thankfully, the Lord got a hold of my tongue before I could unleash it on the poor girl – in time for me to see her pale face, locked between horror and grief at her mistake.  I had to remind myself “just things, Taryn, just material things.” 

Then, this morning I read these words of wisdom and thought it such a practical way of instilling a sense of responsibility in ourselves and our kids.  And, it made me realise that growing up in a home where fault finding is a regular occurrence can grow, amongst other awful things, victim-mentality kids.  *Shudder* 

How Much Do We Need to Blame Children for What Goes Wrong?
Comment: How much should they blame themselves for accidents and such? I want you to comment on the idea of thinking that when something goes wrong, someone must be blamed.

When my 42-year-old daughter was two, I read an article that said that people have a customary way to handle problems, probably depending on their upbringing or on their personality type. Some people blame others, some blame themselves, some cry, some get angry and aggressive, some get depressed and sulk, etc. Some people find out what to do. That impressed me, so I decided to say to her “When we have a problem we find out what to do.”

So I misplaced my purse and it was time to go. I said, “I have a problem. I need to find my purse. Come help me look,” and we found it. Another day she let go of the helium balloon the shoe store gave her just as we got to our car, and up it went. I said, “We have a problem. I can’t reach it. We can cry and squall or we can make up a story. Let’s make up a story. Mr. Balloon is looking down, he’s seeing the car and the shopping center. Look which way he’s going, pretty soon he’ll see the beach….” She is now very good at not majoring in blame, fits, sulks, etc. and is very upbeat considering all the problems their family is having, such as unemployment and children with special needs and right now a tiny foster baby with a monitor that goes off.

When you want to blame someone, instead say what you see, say what needs doing. “There is jam on the floor. Here’s a rag.” or “Johnny, the door…” (when he left the door open). The fewer words, the better, and the tone of voice doesn’t have to be blaming, just announcing what needs doing.

I think usually when “somebody” did it, it is better to just keep your eyes open but not do a police exam to wring a confession out of the guilty party. Sooner or later you will find out who is basically cooperating with you or not and maybe you will find out what is going on if the child doesn’t cooperate by observing more than by questioning. Everything that goes wrong doesn’t have to be punished.

Another way to address misbehavior is to say “What did you do? Were you right or wrong? What should you be doing?” If they can blame themselves enough to fix it, you won’t have to blame or punish.

Can you say to your children, “When we have problems, we find out what to do.”
— Suzanne HD in FL

Response: Absolutely correct. My parents taught me about the same thing when I was growing up. When a situation would come up and I would complain or cry, they would comfort me, but also tell me that we needed to come up with a solution and take action. Never just sit and be a victim or talk about the problem, or roll around in the problem, or just let everything else go wrong because one thing went wrong. They helped me discuss the problem, think over possible solutions and what could happen with each scenario, then act on what was decided. I appreciate that so much as an adult and teach my own children the same.
— walknlove


Interestingly, we do get some things right here – and one of them is what Suzanne HD from Florida recommends –

Another way to address misbehavior is to say “What did you do? Were you right or wrong? What should you be doing?” If they can blame themselves enough to fix it, you won’t have to blame or punish.

Any argument between the kids that reaches me is usually settled with the question “what did YOU do that was wrong?” rather than “what happened?” or “what did SHE do?”.  From there it is much easier to elicit an apology from the kids.  They have voiced what they themselves did wrong, so they know what to apologise for.  We try to stick to our homegrown formula of:

“I’m sorry for doing/saying xwz (because it wasn’t nice/loving etc)”

“I forgive you”

Verbalising what they are apologising for means recognising their wrong doing.  And verbalising their forgiveness means a clean slate to start afresh from.  Forgiveness is so important!  An “it’s ok” can mean “I forgive you” but it often means “what-EV-er!” Voicing their forgiveness requires them to BE forgiving.  And this sometimes means a hug for proof. 

Those are the sweetest moments – genuine apology followed by genuine forgiveness.  Watching my girls skip away, arm in arm, after a moment like this is more than worth the few minutes the whole process takes.

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