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In case you didn’t know…

This blog is written mostly by me, Taryn.  And me, Taryn, is a rather strange creature.  You see, this person that is me is possibly the most contradictory person I know. I’m not quite sure how to get around that, but that is how it is.  At the moment anyway!

So, before this blog gives you any false impressions know this…

  1. I love organic foods and products.  I hardly ever use them. I will tell you exactly which organic foods company I prefer.  But my orders have lapsed due to expense and laziness.
  2. I think eating healthily is important.  But last night I had TimTams for supper.  My kids had fish fingers and chips.  And that is not completely uncommon when Craig is away.
  3. I am increasingly convinced that vaccinations are filled with ingredients that are more harmful than helpful for our kids.  But I worry about whether I am making the best choice by not vaccinating our youngest.  I will speak strongly against childhood illness vaccines.  But I am not against parents making their own choice and I feel scared of hurting their feelings by my uncomfortable-with-vaccines stand.
  4. I love homeschooling my kids.  But some days I feel like packing them off to school.  Other days I worry I’m not doing a good enough job.   And while I love homeschooling and I’m glad we’ve made that choice for now, it’s a choice that we’ve chosen to do for the first 3 grades of school, with the aim to reassess at the end of foundation phase.  While we may continue homeschooling after that, we may choose not to.
  5. And, while I write glowingly about the joys of homeschooling, I’m not a militant Us-Against-Them homeschooler!  I think that there is value in mainstream schooling and oftentimes I miss the things that schools offer that my kids do not get at home.
  6. I enjoy baking.  Two years ago we managed to do it once a week.  These days the kids are lucky if I manage even a birthday party bake.
  7. I think homemaking and looking after one’s husband and kids in tangible ways is admirable and good.  But, I am fortunate enough to have a wonderful 3-4 times a week housekeeper who has taken over 90% of the housework, freeing me up to homeschool and blog … and be lazy.  Some weekends see my husband being the prototypical homemaker while I “recover” from the week.
  8. I have read dozens of parenting books in my short parenting life and have loads of opinions. I usually fail at every ideal I’ve ever had.  Inconsistent? Check. Shouting? Check. Lecturing? Check. Lazy? Check. I hate these failings of mine, but I’ve yet to dramatically change them to the point of perfection.  Hmm, why is that?  Perhaps because only the one who is the I AM is perfect!
  9. I believe strongly that a wife is to respect her husband and allow him to lead the family even if he sucks at it.  Yet, I step on my husband’s toes almost daily, infringing on his right to lead and disrespecting him embarrassingly often.
  10. I love being social and hanging out with friends.  I am terrible at organising play dates and coffee chats.  I am energised by small groups and also crowds of people, yet I am such a homebody that I can be at home alone pottering around with the kids all week and only realise on Friday that the last time I drove the car was Monday.
  11. I think exercise is fantastic. I love running (well, not always!).  And my daily agenda includes morning exercise and bible time with the Lord.  Sadly, it’s more often than not that that particular part of my day is not accomplished.
  12. I blog about a new idea or practise in our home:  From new Bible verse-learning ideas to my bread-making enthusiasm.  I don’t generally blog about when that new idea has fallen by the wayside or I’ve grown too lazy to see the action through. (Yes, my bread machine has been woefully underutilised this winter!)
  13. I enthuse about life, products, people, things, my family, my ideas, God and more.  I get excited about stuff easily and I love to share it.  But, in my excitement, I can sometimes seem boastful.
  14. I think that telling people about Jesus is so important.  But I wuss out of that more often than not. :(
  15. I come across, too often, as authoritative, together and uncompromising, when all too often I feel weak, uncertain and emotionally fragile.

The only thing that is certain in my life is that over which I have no control.  Romans 5:6-8 outlines exactly what that is…

6You see, at just the right time, when we were still powerless, Christ died for the ungodly. 7Very rarely will anyone die for a righteous man, though for a good man someone might possibly dare to die. 8But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

So, while I really suck at being consistent, I know that it is He who keeps me from falling.  And it is He who will shape my children, because of and in spite of our parenting.  And, at the end of the day, it’s not about whether I can bake bread from scratch or consistently wake up at 5am (wahahah!) to have a decent quiet time and exercise time.  It’s about glorifying God.  And we can most glorify Him when we are most satisfied in Him.  And, while I inconsistently work on that, I know that no matter how often I fail, Christ has already died for my sin and is waiting, arms open wide, to welcome me Home.

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If Jesus dying for your sins sounds awesome or crazy or foreign or ridiculous or just plain dumb, check this site out to get the full picture of why God thinks it’s the most important thing ever. It’ll take just 5 minutes.  And, I reckon, 5 minutes isn’t very much time to find out more about a rather weighty claim that could potentially have an eternal bearing on your life.

(Finally, I’ve switched off comments on this post, because I really don’t want to perpetuate the idea that I’m looking for admiration or praise.  Thank you for those who have been encouraging.   I really appreciate it and it helps to give me some balance and perspective when I’m in the thick of second guessing myself constantly.  However, for those for whom this blog is a big stumbling block, the encouraging comments can come across like praise – and that kinda defeats the purpose of the post.)

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I’m choosing to remember

… these moments of our Saturday:

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Here my angelic, hardworking, servant-hearted children are helping me make our Sunday lunch – lasagne.  Sam grated the cheese.  Katie chopped the peppers.  Kiera handled the punnet of mushrooms.  (And Micah ate a few of those – mushrooms, not punnets.)  They all offered their help and got stuck in enthusiastically.  Makes a mother’s heart sing.

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And then, 10 minutes later they went back to shouting outside; fighting over the black bikes; biting (Micah on Sam); screaming (Sam at Katie) and eventually being relegated to their rooms after I lost it with them.

Sigh. 

Funny how we only remember to take photos of the good moments. :)

I think, in God’s grace, that He allows us to forget the horrible moments a lot quicker than the special moments.

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Mom’s on the computer

From Spunky’s blog – the potential is huge…  the hints are there… this poem is a reminder of what can be and what sometimes is….

Mom’s on the Computer (to the tune of Cat’s in the Cradle.)
My computer arrived just the other day,
It came on the porch in the usual way
So many blogs to read and games to play
My child learned to walk, while I twittered away
And he was talkin’ for I knew it, as my friends list grew
He’d say I’m gonna be like you mom
You know I’m gonna be like you
And mom’s lost on the computer, lettin’ dinner burn
Little boy wanders, he just wants to learn
When you getting off mom?
I don’t know when, but we’ll get together then
we’re gonna have a good time then

My son turned ten just the other day
He said "thanks for the wii, mom, come on let’s play"
"Can you teach me how it works?" I said “Not today”
"I got a blog to write" he said “that’s okay”
And he walked away while the computer never dimmed
He said, “I’m gonna be like them, yeah”
You know I’m gonna be like them
And mom’s lost on the computer lettin’ dinner burn
Little boy wanders, he just wants to learn
When you getting off mom?
I don’t know when, but we’ll get together then
We’re gonna have a good time then

Well my son came home just the other day
iPod in his ears, while he texted away
"Son, I’m proud of you, can you sit for a while?"
He shook his head and he said with a smile
"I’d really like to Mom, but talkins’ not my thing"
"Check my status, for what’s happening"
And mom’s lost on the computer lettin’ dinner burn
Little boy wanders, he just wants to learn
When you getting off mom?
I don’t know when, but we’ll get together then
You know we’ll have a good time then

Well my blog’s retired and my Facebook out-of-date
My son texted, “Hey mom, I just can’t relate"
I said, "I’d like to see you if you have some time."
He said, "I’d love to mom but skype if you don’t mind."
"You see my website’s down and my workload just grew."
"but it’s nice texting with you, mom"
It’s been sure nice texting with you."
And as I typed “c u later” it occurred to me
He’d grown up just like me
My boy was just like me

© 2010 SpunkyHomeschool All Rights Reserved

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December moments

This December has been super busy – I’ve blogged so little, because I’ve been racing around doing the 101 other things that make life productive and interesting.  This post is an attempt to capture some of the moments (as yet, unblogged) that whizzed by this December…

Kathy’s baby shower … I love first time baby showers – the gifts are always cool and we get to oooh and aaah at the newness of it all!

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And with a family like Kath’s, creativity is the key, like this sock posy her mom-in-law made for her baby girl (Caitlyn) to come…

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Busy Kids ended for the year – we had a last craft and fun day at Ingrid’s house (mine was overtaken by fresh paint on walls and a playroom full of freshly painted drawers)…  This is also the end of an era – no more Busy Kids ever as some move overseas, others head to Big School and others focus on Big homeschool :)

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Much of the first week of December was consumed by some home maintenance – this was one of my projects: sanding down and repainting the girls’ bedroom drawers.  We swapped the boys and girls rooms around, which required a new coat of paint on the walls of each bedroom, a complete wardrobe overhaul and much moving of furniture, toys, books, curtaining and bedding – I’ve still got a few finishing touches to do to both rooms, before I’ll post pics for you still see, Kel!

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The girls made these sweet candle crafts at Lunch Bunch – they made a beautiful table centre piece for our dinner one evening. 

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We celebrated Dad’s birthday on the 8th with a morning tea at our house, with a cake that I made… that literally fell apart.  Big clumps of cake broke away as I tried to decant the baking tin (I’ve since been told that flour really is the best tin liner there is)!  So, in an attempt to salvage it somewhat, I plopped it into a bowl and covered it with cream and chocolate and passed it off as a pudding (thanks mom for the idea!)

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Mom and dad took us all out for dinner that night at Kelvin.  A splurge that they felt was fitting since next year Craig and Kerry will be across the ocean.

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Craig spent some good time with the kids despite the busyness of the first couple of weeks of December – buying us KFC one evening as a surprise and making the kids pancakes.  Micah is fully into pancakes, it must be said!

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We had a lot of year-end celebrations, including our Lunch Bunch, Craig’s work functions and Busykids.  We also wrapped up the year of home groups with a big group final meeting at the church… 

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We went to the Uncle Willy’s Christmas party – hopefully I will get around to posting more pictures in days to come – but in the meantime, here is a taste of the fun we had …

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We did manage to squeeeeeeeeeze in making an Operation Christmas Box each from the three eldest kids. After my major room change for the kids, I stayed in Spring Clean mode and ended up overhauling the entire house (I still have 2 cupboards left).  The plus side is that I feel ready to begin next year.  The minus side is that I didn’t get to spend as much time with family and friends as I would have liked and many other Christmas-time activities got seriously side-lined.  But, we did manage to squeeze this one in.

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While I was ignoring my children in my Great House Overhaul, the kids were keeping themselves entertained — well, some of the time.  I don’t have photographic record of the trillions of whines, moans, arguments, fights (read: Katie running after Kiera with a knife shouting, “I’m going to murder you!”)  that happened in this time.  Strange how one doesn’t really feel a great compulsion to produce the camera when a screwed up face before you yells incoherent unhappiness at you….  Not so strange, how the fun, happy moments does cause one to reach for the camera.  I prefer recording the happier times, it seems!  Here Kiera smiles with her Sonlight shapes – she had a ball playing with these creating a town, road and boat in perfect symmetry.  And when Katie re-discovered our scary front teeth gag teeth-set, the kids all decided to dress up as varying pseudo-religious mythical characters – aka Santa’s helper, the Easter bunny and Rudolph!

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Craig held a thank you dinner for his HODs at the most beautiful venue – Bloemendal’s in Durbanville.  It has the most magnificent view of Table Mountain and much of the rest of Cape Town.  It was a lovely evening out.

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We celebrated our 11th Wedding anniversary on the 12th – the kids were ably babysat by Granny Bev and Gaa.  We did a whole bunch of fun things, including meals out and a drive through town late at night to see the Adderley Street lights.  We were so impressed that we brought the kids back the following week.  First we visited the Waterfront for some frozen yoghurt (and, unexpectedly, some fun rides, too) and then headed to see the lights…

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This time around, however, Adderley Street was closed to make way for the street festival.  It was so late by then, that we just drove to the top and bottom parts of the light displays and then headed home.  With the FIFA World Cup featuring here in 2010,everything has a soccer theme to it – even the Christmas lights.

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Besides all the Christmas shopping, we also created some gift tags by doing some marble painting outside.  Sam started out in clothing, but ended up completely naked thanks to his inability to stay paint free.  By the end of our 1/2 hour activity, he was covered in paint as were the bricks (note to self: do even outside activities on old newspaper!) – the kids needed a bath and the bricks a scrub.  Katie did the scrubbing, but only after donning the appropriate attire: her Cinderella outfit :)

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That night I spent ages wrapping gifts.  In trying to keep to some kind of conservative budget this year, and in an attempt to give meaningful gifts, I made calendars with pictures of our family members done up with digital scrapbooking software.  It came out better than I ever expected, even if it did take 100 times longer than a quick visit to the shop!  We wrapped them with newsprint/butcher paper decorated with gold hand drawn paper, some red raffia and our homemade gift tags.

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This Christmas, we managed to get a family portrait by the tree – a few self-timed shots and we will have to make the best of it!  Sam was definitely not into smiling naturally this year! 

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More on Christmas festivities in the next post/s and thereafter?  Hello 2010!

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